I love how you’re leaning into little parts of your prebaby self. I haven’t been alone in months so I can definitely relate! I definitely miss doing little things alone so I’m living vicariously through you here. Also, happy nine months to your babe!! 🎉🎉
Okay first of all thank you so much for the recs you motherly fashion icon!!
And all your thoughts about feeling way overstimulated and opening a million apps and closing them immediately i was just reading along like SAME girl. Truthfully I've found it so hard to commit to reading substack posts this year (since femur gate) but your posts I always make time for!!
And happy 9 months to your sweet baby boy! my son just turned 1 and it's a whole slew of emotions over here. You go mom you go.
One of the most interesting realizations that I had postpartum was how jealous I felt of my husband for simply being able to drive to work by himself in his own thoughts without having to worry about any real or phantom crying in the backseat. Postpartum was such a dyad for me of feeling isolated while never actually being alone.
Also, if you haven’t already discovered her, check out the loopy whisk on Instagram. She has so many incredible gluten-free recipes that I use when I’m cooking for friends with celiac.
I always feel a little bad about feeling overwhelmed, because my husband often works 11+ hour days when he’s coaching, but going for a long run with high schoolers might be preferable to managing dinner with two kids?
Alone is always the thing we all want but when we have those moment don’t know how to live with. It’s a skill and it’s crazy that we need to train ourselves to be with our own thoughts. But what’s important is that you’re conscious about it, and finding ways to find those alone times. ❤️
I’ve never related to something more than when you talked about being alone in your house and how rare it has become! We had a night where the kids were at the grandparents and we got to wake up alone in our house in our own bed and it felt like we were on vacation!
We did this more when my daughter was younger and I was studying for my licensing exams, and grandparent sleepovers need to come back to my life. I still turned on the white noise in the hallway when she was gone because now I think I need it too 😂
Ohhhhh alone time. It's so hard when you constantly have to be "on" for everyone/everything around you--the overstimulation is REAL. Esp when coupled with the ability to "unwind" with endless content consumption that really, really doesn't help. I can relate to this HARD. I remember sitting in my car for like 10 min after getting home before I'd go inside to have that one moment of quiet before jumping into it all. It's def easier as kids get older, but I still try to wake up an hour before everyone else to squeeze in that precious alone time.
Feb was a grind. Also tired of outfit planning around snow, and just generally feeling trapped inside. Bright spot was watching my kiddos throw themselves into various unguided creative projects, like an elaborate wedding for 2 stuffies, plans for an OJ stand in the summer, and comic book creation <3
The being “on” thing is so hard. My husband is great about giving me a break, and I try to do the same for him. But gosh being alone is a whole other level of bliss 😂
I also love when my daughter orchestrates whole worlds for herself and her toys, and gets us all involved.
Those moments of alone time are priceless. I often reflect on what the heck I did with all my free time before kids. I love the idea of a gluten feee sourdough exploration! There’s some great recipes out there!
I struggle with not having my alone time. It’d been a constant struggle the past 12 years since having my first. Just know I feel you.
Best of Feb- snow days that forced us to slow down and spend uninterrupted time as a fam. Worst of Feb - I’m cold, and really miss outdoor time. Excited for longer days on the horizon.
I love how you’re leaning into little parts of your prebaby self. I haven’t been alone in months so I can definitely relate! I definitely miss doing little things alone so I’m living vicariously through you here. Also, happy nine months to your babe!! 🎉🎉
Thanks Natalie! You made it a whole year — happy birthday to your little guy (and you!)
Okay first of all thank you so much for the recs you motherly fashion icon!!
And all your thoughts about feeling way overstimulated and opening a million apps and closing them immediately i was just reading along like SAME girl. Truthfully I've found it so hard to commit to reading substack posts this year (since femur gate) but your posts I always make time for!!
And happy 9 months to your sweet baby boy! my son just turned 1 and it's a whole slew of emotions over here. You go mom you go.
One of the most interesting realizations that I had postpartum was how jealous I felt of my husband for simply being able to drive to work by himself in his own thoughts without having to worry about any real or phantom crying in the backseat. Postpartum was such a dyad for me of feeling isolated while never actually being alone.
Also, if you haven’t already discovered her, check out the loopy whisk on Instagram. She has so many incredible gluten-free recipes that I use when I’m cooking for friends with celiac.
Ooh I’m going to check her out!
I always feel a little bad about feeling overwhelmed, because my husband often works 11+ hour days when he’s coaching, but going for a long run with high schoolers might be preferable to managing dinner with two kids?
Alone is always the thing we all want but when we have those moment don’t know how to live with. It’s a skill and it’s crazy that we need to train ourselves to be with our own thoughts. But what’s important is that you’re conscious about it, and finding ways to find those alone times. ❤️
You’re right! I am working on being more comfortable with actually being alone with my thoughts ♥️ it’s a good reminder to keep working on it
I’ve never related to something more than when you talked about being alone in your house and how rare it has become! We had a night where the kids were at the grandparents and we got to wake up alone in our house in our own bed and it felt like we were on vacation!
Best of February were the books I read!
The sound machine will never leave. I thought it would once the kids get older but it feels apart of us now! 😅
We did this more when my daughter was younger and I was studying for my licensing exams, and grandparent sleepovers need to come back to my life. I still turned on the white noise in the hallway when she was gone because now I think I need it too 😂
Ohhhhh alone time. It's so hard when you constantly have to be "on" for everyone/everything around you--the overstimulation is REAL. Esp when coupled with the ability to "unwind" with endless content consumption that really, really doesn't help. I can relate to this HARD. I remember sitting in my car for like 10 min after getting home before I'd go inside to have that one moment of quiet before jumping into it all. It's def easier as kids get older, but I still try to wake up an hour before everyone else to squeeze in that precious alone time.
Feb was a grind. Also tired of outfit planning around snow, and just generally feeling trapped inside. Bright spot was watching my kiddos throw themselves into various unguided creative projects, like an elaborate wedding for 2 stuffies, plans for an OJ stand in the summer, and comic book creation <3
The being “on” thing is so hard. My husband is great about giving me a break, and I try to do the same for him. But gosh being alone is a whole other level of bliss 😂
I also love when my daughter orchestrates whole worlds for herself and her toys, and gets us all involved.
Those moments of alone time are priceless. I often reflect on what the heck I did with all my free time before kids. I love the idea of a gluten feee sourdough exploration! There’s some great recipes out there!
Exactly! What did I do with that time?! But then I remember how I spent a lot of time and money at Pure Barre and my house was always clean 😂
I struggle with not having my alone time. It’d been a constant struggle the past 12 years since having my first. Just know I feel you.
Best of Feb- snow days that forced us to slow down and spend uninterrupted time as a fam. Worst of Feb - I’m cold, and really miss outdoor time. Excited for longer days on the horizon.
Tiny room! Get me to a tiny room!
We don’t get February break in NJ so those snow days last week were so welcome! Except now I lose two days of spring break, ugh.
Oh YUCK. Glad they served you well, though!